My daughter is going through a very difficult phase. She used to be so sweet, she’d listen very good and I felt lucky for how easy she made motherhood for me.
That phase is over! Now all she can do is scream, kick, yell. Steal the food from underneath your nose. She won’t listen, no matter how many times I ask. The only thing that works is if I raise my voice or spank her on her diaper. Putting her in the corner won’t even work because she’ll always find something to do. She’ll just sing a song or do a dance. So she makes me mad. Every time I walk into the kitchen she is ‘hungry’. But all she wants to eat is either ice cream or a cookie. When I tell her she can’t have any, she’ll scream and shout. As soon as the mail comes, she runs to the door. She used to bring it to me, now she wants to open the mail. The other day she ripped a very important letter. There’s not one day that she won’t do all the things I tell her not to. This morning I regretted getting angry. I said something that made me tear up. In the heat of the moment, trying to get her to go do her own thing so I could get some work done, I said ‘I’m sick of you!’. She walked away with tears in her eyes and I stood still. I need to choose my words more careful. But I also need to come up with a way (or a few) so I won’t get so angry with her anymore. It’s just a kid. If she were older I could sit down with her and talk to her about what I said and apologize. (Not that it would make it up to her. I just shouldn’t have said it in the first place) "Words cut deeper than knives." It’s true. I have heard a lot of things from people that made scars that still need care and are still healing after years. I don’t want to give anyone such pain. Not an enemy and certainly not my own daughter. That little girl means the world to me. No, without her, there would be no world. So before I say something I might regret… - I want to count to 10, or 100 if I need to. - I want to pray so I can ask God to help me calm down. So He can help me find a way to express how I feel to her, in a way that won’t harm her (or anyone else). And if that doesn’t work, - Walk away. This isn’t just something I want to do when it comes to my daughter. It’s something that I need to do whenever I feel like I might say something without thinking it through. I want to make sure that my words won’t wound anyone. That’s all on me. Nobody holds a shield, if you are out to hurt somebody, your words will do the job. I don’t want that! I never chose my words. I just said the first thing that would come to mind. The things I have said, have hurt people and I will do my very best to make sure it won’t ever happen again. Treat others the way you want to be treated! Please, share your thoughts/experiences in the comments. Or you can send me an email. Go to my contact page and fill in the form.
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