I came across something where someone said "Are you healed, in repair or still broken from your last situation? Are you ready for a new chapter?"
She didn't ask me directly so I didn't owe her an answer. I owed it to myself to think about it. In the context I knew she meant relationship rather than situation but the question fits where ever you want it to. So am I? Am I healed from my last relationship? Am I healed from the situations I've been in? I'd like to think so. I'm well on my way. I'm no longer broken. I've healed from a lot of things. I'm able to think about past situations without feeling the pain that came with it; without feeling anger or resentment. That's how I know I'm healed. But there are things that still hurt. My past relationship for example. I'm no longer in pain and I don't hate him (anymore). But the fact that I'm now constantly confronted with the girl he cheated on me with... that annoys me. Even that doesn't hurt anymore but it doesn't feel good either. She probably has no idea and I want to keep it that way. But that's how I knew that I'm still in repair. Healing takes time. Don't expect to be healed the week after something broke you down. I wrote my process down, I'm glad I did because now that I've healed from a lot, I can go back and actually see that it wasn't always how it is today. I am glad that I took the time to heal. before I just wanted to get it over with, that never worked. Are you healed, in repair or broken? The thing with that question is that it makes you think. If you never think about it, how do you realize that there's still work to do? If your roof is leaking but you never go up to the attic, how do you know there's a leak? You have to go up there and check, you'll have to look at the leak and study it before you can do something about it. That's also what you have to do about the cracks in your heart. Study them and find the root of the pain and then repair it. Please share your thoughts and comments below or send me an email via my contact page. Talk to me on Twitter/Facebook or Instagram--> links in the sidebar. Spending time on healing yourself is the best way to ever investment your time!
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How are you today? Did you get enough sleep?
I have an idea... it's a new week, a fresh start. Start this Monday with a positive attitude. Look in the mirror and tell yourself 5 things you appreciate about yourself. Ask yourself how you are. Answer honestly. Count your blessings and start your day; start your week. Spend this week treating yourself how you would the person you love the most. Why? Because you need to be the person you love the most. Make the most of every day. Do you have a job to get to today? Enjoy the trip over there. Put on some music and sing along (Maybe not such a good idea if your taking public transportation 😜). Spend some extra time on yourself in the morning. Don't just throw on anything, look for an outfit that makes you feel good. Grab those shoes you like but never really wear to work (or school) because they're 'extra'. Make yourself a good breakfast and instead of drinking your coffee on the go, sit down and enjoy it. Are you staying home today? Great. Take a long shower and treat your body. Take the time to moisturize. Make sure you're envoirment is clean so you won't get annoyed by the mess around you. Grab a book if you like to read. Spend some time on yourself. Every thing you do doesn't have to be an chore. Doing your grocery shopping can even be made easier if you make a list before you leave the house so you can shop without the stress of maybe forgetting something. I mean come on, even brushing your teeth can be "fun". You just have to flip that switch and WANT to have fun while doing the things you have to do. I spend this weekend cleaning the house. Something I HAVE to do. I don't have a choise. It has to happen whether I want to do it or not. I put a playlist that always makes me happy. Imma daughter wanted to help so I gave her the task to bring all of her toys and things from the living room and bring them to her room. I told her to put the toys in the blue box and all the rest could go on her bed. She was done in no time. In the mean time I spend my time on folding the laundry. When she was done she could listen to the soundtrack cd of Frozen so that's probably why she finished her chore so quickly. 😜 Giving her something to do helped me because she wasn't trying to help me fold = she wasn't jumping on the bed. She helped me vacume and before we knew it everything but the kitchen and bathroom were done. If I would've done it by myself it would've been a lot more stressful because I had to tell a three year old to get out of the way every 2 minutes. But now the house is clean... my mother is coming over tomorrow morning and I can just wake up and spend time on me and my baby before we have to leave. I won't have to stress about all the things I'll have to do before she arrives. - preparation is everything. Procrastinating is not (it is something that I'm very, very good at). I'm ready to start the week. I'm calm and I am making the most of everything I do because... why not? To answer my questions: I'm alright, a little tired because I didn't get enough sleep, (I found a new show on Netflix that is very hard to turn off) but I'm positive and I feel good. Let's do this! It doesn't matter what you do right or wrong, there will always be people that find reasons to hate you no matter what.
There's one person that I 'keep running into' that pretends that I don't exist. To be honest, I have never really talked to them. But that's not even the point. The point is that they pretend to know me and therefor think they have the right to treat me with this level of disrespect. It doesn't bother me but it also isn't something that doesn't touch me at all. I always try to please everybody and for some reason (I have no idea what that reason could be...) this person doesn't like me. There are two things that I can do now... 1. Be petty and ignore them back. Give them the same amount of respect that they give me... none. Or 2. I could be the bigger person and stay true to who I am. I refuse to let their behavior drag me down to their level. I'll always choose to go higher and put my pride aside for myself. Not for anybody else! Just for me. Because I need to deal with myself and it's great practice too 😜 You know what, there will always be people that try to hurt you by treating you badly. There will always be people that will disrespect you but it says so much more about them than it does about you! You need to be the bigger person and just let it slide - sidenote: you don't have to accept someone's disrespect! But it's the way you deal with it that shows your character! Always strive to be the best person you can be for your own good! Please share your thoughts in the comments or talk to me on twitter/Instagram or Facebook. You can also send me an email by going to my contact page and filling in the form. |
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