Do you really think that that person you look up to has life all figured out?
Do you think they have a secret manual on life? One with all the answers? That they've studied it for years and years and are now masters of life? No. They don't. Every single person has to take it one day at a time. You can't predict what will come at you tomorrow and you can't predict how it will affect you and how you will react to it. You're not the only imperfect human being on this planet! I know I'm not the only one who ever felt like how I felt yesterday. I also know that I'm not the only one who'll ever feel what I'll feel tomorrow. The anger, the hurt, the joy, the love,... it has all been felt before. All the people before us had to go through these same emotions and situations as us. We (our experiences, our way of thinking) are our guide on life. Our past taught us enough to handle the next day. And the next day will teach us what we need to know the day after that. It might be difficult or overwhelming but believe me when I say this, you got this! You are strong enough and you are wise enough. Keep your head up, no matter how heavy it gets. Fake it 'till you make it. It's not just a saying, it works! But you have to be consistent and remember to never give up! I believe in you! I believe in each and every one of us. Why? Because I know for a fact, that if you keep going and keep believing in yourself, you got this. No matter what it is. Keep going. Keep fighting for yourself! Keep your head up high and show yourself (don't do this for the world, do it for you!) how strong you are! Believe in yourself, you've earned that. Share your thought/experiences in the comments or talk to me on Twitter/Facebook/Instagram. The links are in the sidebar. Or send me an email via the contact page. Don't forget your #MyWeeklySpecial ! Have a good week!
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There’s a question. Why am I proud of who I am today? Have you taken the time to answer that question? Have you even thought about that question? What about the answer? If you dissect this question you get more than just one question.
I think it isn’t a simple question. I believe you should put some time into finding the answer and even if you have found the answer it’s something you should keep thinking about. Is there something you aren’t so proud of? If so… work on it. Being proud means, to me, that I changed a lot. That I worked hard on myself. That I’m finally able to see the good things about myself. To me, that doesn’t mean that I wouldn’t change a single thing about it anymore. I answered that question a very, very long time ago. You can find my answer on my contact page. It took a while for me to figure out what I was proud of. I still stand by that answer and those are all still things I’m very proud of. But I’m also realistic and I see myself clearly enough to know that I still need a lot of work. I’m proud of myself because I’m constantly working on who I want to be tomorrow. I’m always focused on being my best self. Of course, sometimes I make mistakes but I stopped being so hard on myself for that and that’s another thing I’m really proud of. Something else that I’m proud of is that I take the time to think, meditate even, about who I am; who I want to be; who I don’t want to be. Because if I don’t know the answers to those questions it’s going to be very hard if not impossible to move forward in any direction. Being proud of yourself, not your accomplishments alone but YOURSELF, if something you have to learn. It’s not something that just happens. At least, not to me. So I’m even proud that I’ve learned how to be proud of myself. I want each and every person on this planet to be proud of who they are, who they became. I want you to be proud of who you are today. So are you proud of yourself? Are you proud of who you are today? And why, what are the reasons you are proud of who you are, right now? Let me know in the comments or by filling in the form on the contact page. Or keep it to yourself. But think about it and write it down (yes, with a pen.). Talk to me on Twitter/ Facebook or Instagram – links in the sidebar. Have a good day and be proud because you are a masterpiece! Two years ago I was at an annual convention. I was breastfeeding my daughter and while doing that I met a woman. Our daughters needed to be fed at the same times. So while doing that we got to talking and at the end of the convention, we went home and didn’t see each other for a year.
Last year at the same convention we ran into each other again and we had a lot in common so we decided to exchange phone numbers. I’m so glad we did. Sadly, we don’t live that close to each other but luckily we have our phones. We call and text and we meet up whenever we can. To be honest, since we’ve met, we’ve neem close. I’ve had friends who I knew I could count on no matter what. One of my close friends went out of her way to come visit me every week. She saw me at my worst and she’s still here. My daughter grew up around her and she is one of the most important people in my (and my daughter’s) life. But there were things that we didn’t have in common. The woman I met at the convention is like my long lost sister. We have everything in common and we love and appreciate the same things. She has taught me so much already and if I’m stuck in my emotions or feel like I can’t do whatever it is that I need to do, she’s always there to support me. The thing about our relationship that I appreciate the most is that she confines in me too. That she trusts me and that she will come to me when she has something on her mind. Most of my relationships have always been either a one-way street or a very turbulent, ‘I-do-one-thing-for-you-now-you-must-return-the-favor’ type of relationships. This friend, has helped me believe in myself again. She’s amazing and I’m so lucky that I got to meet her and that I get to be her friend. All you need is one person that’s always going to be there. That understands your life and the choices you make. All you need is one friend that leans on you as much as you lean on them. It balances out the friendship. We help each other save ourselves, instead of depending on the other to save us. It makes us stronger and wiser. It makes us better. I hope you have a great week. I hope you can find your weekly special, I know I’m keeping my eyes open for it. Stay positive and stay strong! Have you ever noticed how a child never gives up. They might not understand or it might seem physically impossible but they never give up.
This is tiny little baby manages to learn how to move his head. Soon after managing that, he'll try sitting for the first time. Soon after managing that, he'll try standing up and before you know it, he'll run. When teaching a child a language, he'll just listen and repeat. It might sound like a hot mess in the beginning but with lots of practice, he'll soon master the language. He's even learn multiple languages without ever saying 'I can't do it!' Why is it that we, as adults have a hard time learning something new? It's no the action that is difficult to master, it's the mindset. Before we decide to pick up a new language for example, we're most likely going to listen to someone who mastered the language. Before comitting to it, but there's a big chance that we'll say, no, it's too difficult. But is it? Why do we limit ourselves by telling ourselves that the thing we want is out of reach or will take too long to master? I want to challenge myself to learn a few more languages. French, Italian, Chinese, whatever. It's not even about the language, it's about the fact that I'm learning something new, I'm challenging myself to push even though it might seem hard and even though it might take a while. It's also about changing your mindset. Look at everything with a positive mind. It's the only way. Change your way of thinking, because being positive will get you much further and you'll be happier too. No matter what it is that you would like to learn, don't think too long before making the decision. Don't look at all the cons, look at all the pros. Be like that child, just go for it. I know you can do it, do you know it too? Please share your thoughts/experiences in the comments. Or email me by filling in the form on the contact page. Or talk to me on social media -- links in the sidebar. Spread positivity by being positive. Sometimes all you need is a change of scenery.
I had been feeling sick for a little while and at some point, I noticed that, not being able to do a lot, was affecting my mental health. I felt sad and I didn’t feel like doing a lot of things that I normally enjoy doing. I noticed that staying home was giving me a new feeling. I started to dislike my house and everything in it. What caused that? Well, I had been in bed or on the couch for almost three weeks. But instead of making the most of the moments I felt a bit better, I just stayed in that same ‘sick-mode’. So I decided to get up, get ready and leave the house. I decided. I didn’t wait to feel better. Because I wasn’t going to feel better. I had moments. But those moments were starting to get rare. I wasn’t feeling good, mentally and the only way I could change that, was by forcing myself out of my comfort zone. Because staying in my very comfortable bed with the remote control in my hand, wasn’t going to make me feel any different than the day before. That’s what I had to realize. So I made a decision. Today I can stay in bed and get all the energy I want, but tomorrow I’m going to get out of the house and have fun. Don’t get me wrong, I did get up every morning and I did get ready every morning to take my baby to pre-school. But that was just part of the same routine and that routine was starting to bother me. Probably because I never changed it up. Take her to school; go home; go to the gym (even though I don’t really want to); rush back to the school to pick her up; go home and let her nap (and take a nap myself because, what else am I going to do?) and after that we’re just killing time. So I decided to change it up a bit and take her out. I initially did it for her, but it ended up to be really good for me. Because I probably wouldn’t have done it for myself. Going out and seeing how happy my baby got when we got to where we were going, it made me feel better and because mentally I was healing, my body soon followed. The same thing that kept me in bed until the very last moment, doesn’t bother me that much anymore. Because I made the decision to not feel any king of depression or whatever it was that kept me down. I knew that if I wouldn’t change anything about the way I lived those days, I would eventually get depressed and that’s the last thing I want. So decide not to fall into that trap. Decide that you’re going to do better. Make your day better, make your week better. Do something for yourself. Taking care of yourself should always be your number 1 priority! Without you, everything else will fall apart. EVERYTHING. Think about it. How are you going to perform at your job, if you don’t take care of yourself first? How are you going to take care of your kids, if you don’t take care of you first? There are so many reasons for you to look after yourself. Treat yourself like the Queen or King that you are. Because you are. Instead of deciding that you’re going to spend your whole Saturday in bed, decide to take a walk around the block. Go to the park and feed the ducks. Go visit your grandmother. Do something that you know will make you feel better. What worked for me, was to see my baby happy. I also saw my friend and my aunt. We hung out with the kids and it helped me get back up. Find those people in your life that help you realize that there are reasons for you to get back up, no matter what the situation. DECIDE, I can’t say this enough, decide to get up, just get up and start your day. But you have to decide that that’s what you’re going to commit to. In the long run, you’ll feel great! But don’t give up! Share your thoughts/experiences in the comments or by sending me an email -> contact page. Or talk to me on Social media (links in the sidebar) and use #StraightThinking. We’re going to be alright! |
AuthorMy passion is writing. I started writing stories when I was only 6 years old and I still do it today. Blogging is something I've been wanting to do for a long time, so here we are. Archives
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