The last few years I've been so focused on my daughter and my writing and myself that I haven't been out a lot. I had a very limited social life and for that time, it was all I needed. I met my best friend by accident. I had to get my hair done and the girl who was supposed to do it cancelled last minute. I was in a rush trying to find someone who could do it before the week ended and by a lot of luck (and I believe God had a say in this because we were just meant to meet) she was available. Within the first hour after meeting each other we were already becoming friends.
That friendship helped me to get out of my little bubble and we started hanging out a lot. A few weeks ago she was added to a Facebook group, she added me too and it was a lot of fun but I never expected anything to come from it except my phone blowing up with notifications 😜. Two weeks ago a couple of the girls wanted to see a movie that I was planning on going to by myself so we decided to go together. Yesterday a lot of people came together to go bowling, we had the most fun that anyone could imagine with people most of us had never met before. A lot of new friendships were build and the thing is, normally I wouldn't even do things like this. Probably because I'm a chicken who'd rather stay home on the weekends because what if it'll be awkward? But by putting my out there I made a lot of new connections and we gathered from all around the country. The thing is, if we don't get out of our comfort zone, which is really not doing us any good by the way, we will always stay in the same place as we are now or were back then. Get out there, meet new people, do new things, have some fun. If yesterday would've been a disaster then it would've been a lesson learned but I wouldn't have known unless I went. So next time, I know I'll be there. No matter what it is, no matter who's coming, I'm there. Why? Well because I'm not meant to stay at home all week. I'm not meant to be nothing else but a mom. I'm a 24 year old woman who has a child. I'm Imara first and I need to put myself out there, make some friends and enjoy life. My daughter is turning 4 next month. Her going to school gives me more time for myself. More time to do things for me so why would I not use that and do things that will make not only my days but also my future better. What do I mean by that? If I don't get out there today, I probably won't tomorrow. Staying in doesn't do me any good because well, you can only do so much around the house. Seriously, the time we spend yesterday was the most fun I had in a long time and the best thing about it... I didn't have a wall around me and I felt comfortable enough to just be me and have fun the way I want to. My advice to everyone: put yourself out there... it is more than just worth it!
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Accept where you are in life.
You have reached a point in your life, maybe you're exactly where you thought you'd be or maybe you're not even close to where you thought you'd be... either way, you are EXACTLY where you should be right now. To be happy with where you are all comes down to accepting it. If you accept where you are you are more likely to get to where you want to be. If you keep holding on to the thought of where you thought you had to be right now, that will not make you happy and it will keep you from moving. Every choice you make needs to be accepted in order to move on to what's next. The only thing you can do right now is accept. You can't go back and change something you did yesterday or last month or ... 2 seconds ago. If you keep thinking about those things, you'll end up living in the past. There's nothing to do about it but accept it. Once you did that, then you can start looking at what's ahead. And all that's ahead of you is so much more interesting than what's behind you. I mean, why read the same book again and again and again and again... if you have 10 other books laying next to you which you haven't even opened yet? Accept where you are in life, accept everything you did that put you in this place and make tomorrow what you want tomorrow to look like. If you don't succeed, don't worry, there's another tomorrow coming. Embrace yourself. You are doing good! You are trying to do everything that you have to do to make tomorrow better than today. You're human and sometimes, life just takes over. Be happy that that happens once in a while. Sometimes something bad bad happens and because life happens, you're able to find the solution later because life gave you a new perspective. Take everything as a lesson so it can sculpt you into a better you for tomorrow. You got this! I took some time to think about this. What is love to me?
Love, to me, isn't limited between two people. Love, to me, is life. It is the ability to forgive. It is the strength to look past imperfections. Love, to me, is the will to be the best friend/wife/mother/sister/daughter and so on. Love, to me, is empowering. It gives you strength. The love I have for my daughter is all forgiving and accepting. The love I have for her will give me the strength to move mountains to make her path in life easier. What is love to me? Love makes you want to give 150% of yourself to the person you love without expecting anything in return. Love will make you do everything in your power to create a smile on a sad face. Love will have you wishing for another persons succes more than your own. Love makes everything better. Love creates life. Love is life so what is life without love? 'Giving up on love' doesn't exist to me. It will never be an option. Giving up on 'LOVE' would mean giving up on loving yourself, your children, your friends, your family... no! The love I have for myself will keep me from repeating mistakes. The love I have for myself builds me up. It creates my character and I am an emotional person. I run on feelings and emotions. Love is the one thing that kept me alive. The love for God kept me alive. The hope to ever find true love kept me going. I may not have found the man that I want to grow old with yet but I have found the realist and truest love I could (and can) ever find! I found it in myself and I found it in what came from love, my daughter. Love, to me, isn't limited to a relationship. Love, to me, is all around us. It is in Gods creation. It is in us. It is in every breath we take. We just have to open our eyes to see it. Love is life, therefore there is no life without love. ♥️ So... what is love to you? Sometimes I'm tired of always being the bigger person. Why do I always have to keep my feelings to myself?
But when I think about it... I'm the one who gains the most from not following their lead. By trying to keep it together I have gained the strength of self control. I've learned to use my words in a moment when I'd much rather just scream out any word that came to mind. I've learned how to calm myself down so I can think about the situation with a clear mind. In that moment, being the bigger person isn't always what you feel like you should do but 'they' will never be able to say that you are out of character. Think about yourself (and your children). Put your pride aside because 99/100 times it's not even worth losing your cool over. ------ I know this is the shortest entry I've ever posted but to be honest, it's hard to write about positivity when you can't really find any positivity in yourself. I'm trying really hard to let go of what's bothering me right now but it's hard because I'm still in the middle of it. I can't put this aside and because I can't do that yet I can't let it go. But I'm working on it. I'm trying to figure out how to get away from this situation so I can move on from it. I'm a work in progress 😊 |
AuthorMy passion is writing. I started writing stories when I was only 6 years old and I still do it today. Blogging is something I've been wanting to do for a long time, so here we are. Archives
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