I was thinking about the progress I have made and how strong I’ve become since I started writing again. The thing that I thought about the longest was how I used to see myself as a victim. I was a victim to the circumstances. I was a victim to the way I was treated by my family and other people in my life. I was a victim.
“Well, I can’t help it that I got sick in my senior year of high school and wasn’t able to finish my year, twice!” – No, true, I couldn’t help it that I got sick, but I could’ve gone back to school after I got better. “Well, but then I had to start all over again and with all of my experience I didn’t want to go back to the basics of cutting hair.” – Ok, fair. But I could’ve made the decision to go in a different direction so I would have a degree after all. Those are just two examples of how I changed my thinking. I view life differently and I don’t hold anyone or anything accountable anymore of what happened or happens to me! For example: You can hurt me once, but I refuse to accept it so you can hurt me twice. You can walk over me once but I will refuse to accept that so you can walk over me twice. It’s all up to me! I am in control. If I accept the way you treat me, I give you the green light to keep treating me like that. If I refuse to accept it I show you ‘Stop, I don’t deserve to be treated badly. You either change your behavior towards me or I move on from you.’ It’s all about how you look at yourself and how much you care about yourself! Let’s say you have a dog. You love your dog so much that you take care of it, you feed him so he will never get hungry, you walk with him because you want him to get enough exercise and when you have people over you make sure they’re nice to him. You won’t ever accept it if someone comes in your house and kicks your dog to the side. You won’t accept anybody to hurt your dog or to make the dog feel scared. The same with us. Our body is our temple so we take care of it. We feed it so we won’t get hungry. We do all these things to make our body feel great. But when someone comes around who claims* to love us, we tend to let them kick us to the side. *CLAIMS- I chose this word carefully because it are the ones that CLAIM to love you who end up hurting you. If someone truly loves you they will NEVER hurt you. I no longer feel like I am a victim. I feel strong and I want to stand up for myself and show everyone that I deserve to be treated better than what I’m used to. But also, I want to take matters in my own hands and make sure I get things done. Instead of holding on to excuses. Yes, circumstances got me to where I am but I am the only one who can make sure that I won’t let the circumstances rule my life. I RULE, this here is my kingdom. In my kingdom I am the queen and I will make sure that my kingdom is as beautiful and happy as Mufasa’s kingdom while he was king! (For those who don’t know who Mufasa is… the movie the lion king should be the first movie you watch right now! Skip anything else, watch the lion king first!) You know, taking control over your life is so much easier than you think. Just stop holding on to excuses. Make sure it doesn’t happen again. Sure, some things can’t be prevented but the things you can control, make sure you do. The things you can’t control… just make sure they don’t take over your life. I know you have some thoughts or experiences, or both… so please, share them in the comments. Or email me via the contact page. Or talk to me on Facebook/Twitter – the links are in the sidebar!
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AuthorMy passion is writing. I started writing stories when I was only 6 years old and I still do it today. Blogging is something I've been wanting to do for a long time, so here we are. Archives
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