Blaming others is easier than taking responsibility.
Knowing that blaming other is easier than taking responsibility had me questioning if it was because of others or if it was me avoiding the fact that I was responsible. I was young, naïve and I listened to what people around me said. I needed confirmation for everything. Not anymore. But there was a time where I would rather not leave the house unless someone had told me how I looked. I was very insecure and I wanted others to help me feel better. As soon as you give others the power to make you feel good about yourself, you instantly give them the power to take that feeling away and make you feel bad about yourself. NO ONE in this world should have that kind of power over you. Not your parents, your siblings, your great aunt or you spouse, your friends… nobody. YOU should make yourself feel good and there’s no reason for you to feel bad about yourself. I bet you can name 10 things you don’t like about yourself. STOP thinking NOW! Instead of going on that road, turn around. Name 10 things you like about yourself. Write it down. It’s hard. It’s a lot harder than those things you don’t like about yourself. But that’s ok. Take your time. Maybe you’ll only get to three without trying. It might even make you feel a little discouraged after a few minutes and you can’t come up with number 6. But I bet that when you think hard enough and you find reason 6, 7 and 8 that it will make you feel even better. Don’t let it stop you. You need to feel good about yourself but you can only do that if you know your strengths and your good qualities. What I’m about to say is a painful truth that I had to learn the hard way. I would rather tell you than let you find out. Because finding out hurts a whole lot more than me telling you. If you don’t like yourself, how will others like you? If you don’t love yourself, how will others? You need to like yourself first and then you need to learn how to love yourself. If you do that, others will like you and others will love you. I let others decide how I felt for a long time. Without realizing it, I let them make me feel less sure about myself than before. I let them take away the last bit of self-esteem I had. I allowed people to make me feel better. I felt like I was on top of the world. Not long after I got kick down to the ground and eventually I felt buried. I wasn’t standing on my feet anymore. I didn’t even know how get up on my… butt. I fell into the arms of someone who knocked me even further down and even that didn’t make me realize what I was doing. I would dress up with the girls and go out, hoping for some random guy to want to dance with me. I needed confirmation. Not anymore. I am the only one who will make me feel good about myself. Notice that I said ‘will’. There are others that can. People whose opinion matters to me. But I don’t want them to. I don’t need them to. I won’t let them. I think that is what I needed to learn. That my opinion matters more when it comes to me and my life. When it comes to how you feel, YOU are the one who has control over it. You can give that control away to the person on your right, but don’t be surprised when they decide to switch lanes in their life and take that control with them. Because most likely, they don’t even know they have that much control over you. The ones that know and still don’t give it back to you are people you shouldn’t want in your life. You need to take responsibility. Be responsible for how good you feel. There’s nothing better than feeling great. But you have to get on top of that mountain. You can’t wait for someone to give you a piggy back ride to the top. And once you’re on top of that mountain, watch your step. Stay there. Stop looking over the edge because you know what’s down there. Nothing you want to go back to, right? I’m not going to ask you what you think this week. I’m not going to ask you anything. But I want you to do something. Write down those 10 things that you like about yourself. Take all the time you need. Maybe you know 3 now and you’ll write down another one tonight or tomorrow. Just get those 10 things. I’m going to do the same thing. If you want to you can share them with me by sending me an email via the contact form or you can write them down in the comments. No negative thoughts allowed! Have fun with it. We’ll be alright ;)
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